herbgeek
3-29-11, 3:16pm
I was unemployed for a long time. An acquaintance contacted me a few months ago for a contracting gig which I do from home. This aspect is very sweet, and I am very grateful to be earning income.
The person I'm working directly for (which is not the end client) has very strong preferences. He's been a consultant for a long time, and I've not done this before, so I'm willing to listen and do things in a different way from the way I've done them as an employee/manager.
However, he has to comment on simply everything. Always like I'm a recalcitrant teenager, with that "I'm so disappointed in you" tone. For every one thing I do right, I get 10 negative comments, and this is not an exaggeration. It would be one thing if he let me know of his preferences ahead of time, so I could deliver things in the way he wants, but he won't. So its always trial and error, and I feel I'm just not measuring up to his expectations.
As an example, he asked me to create a particular spreadsheet. I was unclear on exactly what level of detail he was looking for, so I told him I would work on it for a day, and get his feedback on the content. When I sent it to him, I again said I was looking for feedback on the content for the right level. What does he give me for feedback? That he wants different column heading, and larger fonts and underlining. IT WASN'T DONE YET- I save the "making pretty" part for when I'm confident the contents aren't going to dramatically change. Even though I told him twice, both in writing (for me) and in voice (his preference), he still didn't hear me.
I'm just a little resentful with the tone that I'm an idiot, or intentionally not doing my best work. I'm doing what has worked for me in the past. Granted it was in a different context than I am in now, but I'm not just pulling these things out of the air. When I explain why I've done something the way I did, he understands and backs down, but I think it may come across as defensive.
There's a style issue as well. He hates email, loves the phone, where I am the opposite. When I have to contact someone new, I prefer to send a quick email before calling so the person has heard of me and has some idea of why I'm calling. He likes to call first. He has to talk things over and over- 45 minute phone calls are the norm. I'm a just the facts person. I am more content driven, where he is big on colored and pretty charts and graphs. He is, after all, a consultant. I understand that his clients may like those things.
I don't have an issue with doing things differently from my usual style. Its just style after all and I can adapt. I'm annoyed because his first reaction is that other styles are not also valid. I'm also annoyed for getting criticized for the exact same things that he does, only he doesn't see in himself.
But suck it up I do. He normally works alone. He isn't going to change. And its his company, he doesn't have to. So I will stick it out for the duration of this contract. But consulting is so not me. Or at least the way he does it.
The person I'm working directly for (which is not the end client) has very strong preferences. He's been a consultant for a long time, and I've not done this before, so I'm willing to listen and do things in a different way from the way I've done them as an employee/manager.
However, he has to comment on simply everything. Always like I'm a recalcitrant teenager, with that "I'm so disappointed in you" tone. For every one thing I do right, I get 10 negative comments, and this is not an exaggeration. It would be one thing if he let me know of his preferences ahead of time, so I could deliver things in the way he wants, but he won't. So its always trial and error, and I feel I'm just not measuring up to his expectations.
As an example, he asked me to create a particular spreadsheet. I was unclear on exactly what level of detail he was looking for, so I told him I would work on it for a day, and get his feedback on the content. When I sent it to him, I again said I was looking for feedback on the content for the right level. What does he give me for feedback? That he wants different column heading, and larger fonts and underlining. IT WASN'T DONE YET- I save the "making pretty" part for when I'm confident the contents aren't going to dramatically change. Even though I told him twice, both in writing (for me) and in voice (his preference), he still didn't hear me.
I'm just a little resentful with the tone that I'm an idiot, or intentionally not doing my best work. I'm doing what has worked for me in the past. Granted it was in a different context than I am in now, but I'm not just pulling these things out of the air. When I explain why I've done something the way I did, he understands and backs down, but I think it may come across as defensive.
There's a style issue as well. He hates email, loves the phone, where I am the opposite. When I have to contact someone new, I prefer to send a quick email before calling so the person has heard of me and has some idea of why I'm calling. He likes to call first. He has to talk things over and over- 45 minute phone calls are the norm. I'm a just the facts person. I am more content driven, where he is big on colored and pretty charts and graphs. He is, after all, a consultant. I understand that his clients may like those things.
I don't have an issue with doing things differently from my usual style. Its just style after all and I can adapt. I'm annoyed because his first reaction is that other styles are not also valid. I'm also annoyed for getting criticized for the exact same things that he does, only he doesn't see in himself.
But suck it up I do. He normally works alone. He isn't going to change. And its his company, he doesn't have to. So I will stick it out for the duration of this contract. But consulting is so not me. Or at least the way he does it.