kwest
1-2-11, 7:38pm
DH and I are so tired. We are in our sixties and retired. About 10 years ago both our moms(our dads were deceased for many years)reached a point in their lives that they could no longer care for themselves. They both lived close to us. We were still working at the time so we took care of them with some outside help. DH's sister lived 5 hours away but came to help as often as possible. Eventually, they both became unable to remain at home and went to the nursing home. Thank goodness, the facility was close to us so we were able to check on them every day. They were well cared for until they left us, one a few months later and the other several years later.
While DH's mom was in the nursing home, her sister who had no children reached that point where it was not safe for her at home. So she decided that she wanted to go to the same nursing home. We were able to work her into our day also. She was there for almost 3 years before she passed away. DH was executor of her will which included 17 people. Once again, only his sister was there sometimes to help. This included an auction of property and a trip to court before all was done.
After the aunt's death, we had both retired so we bought an RV and started to enjoy roaming around and doing some things we had worked our whole life to be able to do. This lasted for almost a year.
Now, we are right back at it again. An uncle and his wife, in their mid 80's who have no children are to the POINT! Uncle is in the hospital after a major heart attack and there is nothing that can be done for him because his other organs are so worn out. Aunt is just home from 2 weeks in the hospital with double pneumonia. She is diabetic and is not recovering well at all. Tomorrow, DH goes to the hospital to help move uncle to a skilled nursing facility and I go the opposite direction to take aunt to her doctor and probably back to the hospital. Once again, no one to help us except a wonderful neighbor who has health problems, too. We had to cancel our plans to spend the winter in Florida where we have made friends that we are missing a lot.
DH has POA for both uncle and aunt and will be the executor of both wills. We are very thankful that our health allows us to see after them but, dang, we are exhausted! Thanks for this site to vent a little. We know there are no answers and we will continue to do the best we can for them because no one else seems to care enough to step up and help.
Sorry this post is so long.
Karen
While DH's mom was in the nursing home, her sister who had no children reached that point where it was not safe for her at home. So she decided that she wanted to go to the same nursing home. We were able to work her into our day also. She was there for almost 3 years before she passed away. DH was executor of her will which included 17 people. Once again, only his sister was there sometimes to help. This included an auction of property and a trip to court before all was done.
After the aunt's death, we had both retired so we bought an RV and started to enjoy roaming around and doing some things we had worked our whole life to be able to do. This lasted for almost a year.
Now, we are right back at it again. An uncle and his wife, in their mid 80's who have no children are to the POINT! Uncle is in the hospital after a major heart attack and there is nothing that can be done for him because his other organs are so worn out. Aunt is just home from 2 weeks in the hospital with double pneumonia. She is diabetic and is not recovering well at all. Tomorrow, DH goes to the hospital to help move uncle to a skilled nursing facility and I go the opposite direction to take aunt to her doctor and probably back to the hospital. Once again, no one to help us except a wonderful neighbor who has health problems, too. We had to cancel our plans to spend the winter in Florida where we have made friends that we are missing a lot.
DH has POA for both uncle and aunt and will be the executor of both wills. We are very thankful that our health allows us to see after them but, dang, we are exhausted! Thanks for this site to vent a little. We know there are no answers and we will continue to do the best we can for them because no one else seems to care enough to step up and help.
Sorry this post is so long.
Karen