Zoe Girl
1-6-11, 12:05pm
Can i say that teens are more exhausting and expensive than toddlers in daycare with expensive diapers and refusals to sleep. Dang it,
It is better to stick to only the most current things, the whole story is so long. Mostly it is my 17 yo daughter. She had a horrible year last year in school, daily refusals to go, treatment with the psychiatrist, not one week all year where she attended every day. So I finally went into an attendance meeting and told them this was medical and not behavioral and we treated it accordingly. Except for the art studio class she did okay in the grades, and I was utterly exhausted by the end of the year (can I also say this was during our attempt at a short sale that ended in foreclosure). We decided on on-line school for the following year. So this fall she started with the local school districts online program and guess what, she ended up failing everything at one point. After a serious sit down with her counselor we agreed she would go into the computer lab daily and do her work. She passed all but one class and I was still heartbroken over the grades.
So today is day 2 of the new semester and guess what, I am getting grief over her going into the computer lab and grief because she wants to see her boyfriend on a school day. I am very excited that pretty soon she will be out of the house and on her way to school but can I tell you that I am not sure I will ever get over her failing on the heels of her sister failing an entire semester of community college. This all happened when we were getting rid of the house. What breaks my heart is all the years I put them first and had just little side jobs and tried to teach them life skills just didn't do enough to get them to basically pass school (they have all been identified as gifted btw). I can not and will not micromanage their lives the way that was appropriate when they were very young and I am seeing how far what I have taught them is what they can do on their own. Not very much it seems. Me and my siblings did much better with the fear and punishment methods instead of my style.
Well there is not a question here or anything, I just had to share, Now back to being tough momma again.
It is better to stick to only the most current things, the whole story is so long. Mostly it is my 17 yo daughter. She had a horrible year last year in school, daily refusals to go, treatment with the psychiatrist, not one week all year where she attended every day. So I finally went into an attendance meeting and told them this was medical and not behavioral and we treated it accordingly. Except for the art studio class she did okay in the grades, and I was utterly exhausted by the end of the year (can I also say this was during our attempt at a short sale that ended in foreclosure). We decided on on-line school for the following year. So this fall she started with the local school districts online program and guess what, she ended up failing everything at one point. After a serious sit down with her counselor we agreed she would go into the computer lab daily and do her work. She passed all but one class and I was still heartbroken over the grades.
So today is day 2 of the new semester and guess what, I am getting grief over her going into the computer lab and grief because she wants to see her boyfriend on a school day. I am very excited that pretty soon she will be out of the house and on her way to school but can I tell you that I am not sure I will ever get over her failing on the heels of her sister failing an entire semester of community college. This all happened when we were getting rid of the house. What breaks my heart is all the years I put them first and had just little side jobs and tried to teach them life skills just didn't do enough to get them to basically pass school (they have all been identified as gifted btw). I can not and will not micromanage their lives the way that was appropriate when they were very young and I am seeing how far what I have taught them is what they can do on their own. Not very much it seems. Me and my siblings did much better with the fear and punishment methods instead of my style.
Well there is not a question here or anything, I just had to share, Now back to being tough momma again.