Zoe Girl
1-9-11, 12:47am
To get my son to attend school. Background is that he is going to a competitive art school on a guitar major, has some pretty decent anxiety and has had a hard time with school attendance since last spring when dad moved in the middle of the school year and he knew I was losing our house. Okay, some really valid stuff to make it harder to get to school. However I know my kid pretty well and part of this is being stubborn. I won't go into the entire deal but this is the best school option for this year and because the entire family moved and adjusted I am not backing down on him finishing the year. We have counselors and psychiatrist for the extreme insomnia and all that but frankly Tyler is just pushing and pushing until he gets to quit in mid year with no plan on how this would work. I am continuing to support what we need to do as far as counseling and finding friends and all that while also insisting he attend school.
The rest is that he seems to attend on his weeks with dad but misses a lot with me. i work at the time he needs toget to school so his sister takes him, on a bad day i get texts and phone calls while I am in my crunch time about him freaking out and not being able to get toschool. I have been stressed about it, he is stressed about it and then I came up with one answer. He can just get up even earlier and go to work with me and then his sister can come by and take him to school (all of this is within 5 minute drive times). Then he eats breakfast at my job, finishes any homework and basically does not have a total meltdown because he has to do this without mom home (I should say he is almost 14 and sister is 17). I really think he is making things worse the more he misses school but he needs some kind of support.
I am feeling kinda smart, when he had his meltdown on Friday I ran home from work as soon as i was able, called his counselor who just said lovely stuff about finding courage, and then had to deal with work so he missed school. Even though we have the counselors and DR's no one can seem to get him to school on my time, he goes on dads weeks and so I think if they can't make this work then I will have to do it my unique way.
Just a note, please do not suggest things like me not working or changing a schedule that cannot be changed or letting him drop out rght now. Those things are not possible in my mind right now and it is not the time or place to avoid reality. If that is rude I do not mean it that way, but I know what I am dealing with and what our options are.
The rest is that he seems to attend on his weeks with dad but misses a lot with me. i work at the time he needs toget to school so his sister takes him, on a bad day i get texts and phone calls while I am in my crunch time about him freaking out and not being able to get toschool. I have been stressed about it, he is stressed about it and then I came up with one answer. He can just get up even earlier and go to work with me and then his sister can come by and take him to school (all of this is within 5 minute drive times). Then he eats breakfast at my job, finishes any homework and basically does not have a total meltdown because he has to do this without mom home (I should say he is almost 14 and sister is 17). I really think he is making things worse the more he misses school but he needs some kind of support.
I am feeling kinda smart, when he had his meltdown on Friday I ran home from work as soon as i was able, called his counselor who just said lovely stuff about finding courage, and then had to deal with work so he missed school. Even though we have the counselors and DR's no one can seem to get him to school on my time, he goes on dads weeks and so I think if they can't make this work then I will have to do it my unique way.
Just a note, please do not suggest things like me not working or changing a schedule that cannot be changed or letting him drop out rght now. Those things are not possible in my mind right now and it is not the time or place to avoid reality. If that is rude I do not mean it that way, but I know what I am dealing with and what our options are.