Zoebird
7-25-12, 7:18am
So, I've been doing some interesting work lately. All kinds of good stuff.
One is evaluating my internet usage in general, which has been precipitated by some strange happenings around "me" online. I went and talked to a legal advisor on the topic, and a guy who works in some forensics in the area who is a coworker/colleague of his, and their advice was to see if moderators of boards where I no longer participate would completely delete past postings.
My first feeling was a sense of "but what about" followed by an overwhelming sense of relief about it.
I thought that was interesting to observe.
Then, I thought -- how do I really use message boards? As a young person (getting started on these things in 1997), it was largely a social outlet coupled with a rumination process (churning through my thoughts/feelings/ideas). I noted that I still use it for the latter, often with really unsatisfying results. And some of those results are 'unknown' until they come to the fore (i don't want to go into too many details about 'the fore.')
I discovered that I was using message boards to socialize in general -- this one and two others right now -- but not actually meeting my social needs through them, when I am actually meeting my social needs in other places.
So it brought me to this idea that I could "let forums go completely."
And while I am "scared" i also feel "excited" and also "relieved."
Which means it's probably the right way to go.
So, I'll be asking the administration to delete me completely (and all of my posts including this one) -- and I certainly hope that they are willing. It would be a great relief to me.
Yes, it really feels like a relief.
So, I thought I'd share it as a sort of "parting declutter." Not that I think it's wrong/bad to use message boards -- it's awesome. Just that, well, I'm thinking that it's time for me to let it go. That it's ok to live without it.
I'm scared and excited by the prospect.
Thanks for everything guys, truly. Also, if anyone wants to connect via FB or something, do send me a PM and I'll use my discretion. (Probably, thus, will keep the account for a few days to allow for this. So likely by this weekend, I'll ahve this done.)
One is evaluating my internet usage in general, which has been precipitated by some strange happenings around "me" online. I went and talked to a legal advisor on the topic, and a guy who works in some forensics in the area who is a coworker/colleague of his, and their advice was to see if moderators of boards where I no longer participate would completely delete past postings.
My first feeling was a sense of "but what about" followed by an overwhelming sense of relief about it.
I thought that was interesting to observe.
Then, I thought -- how do I really use message boards? As a young person (getting started on these things in 1997), it was largely a social outlet coupled with a rumination process (churning through my thoughts/feelings/ideas). I noted that I still use it for the latter, often with really unsatisfying results. And some of those results are 'unknown' until they come to the fore (i don't want to go into too many details about 'the fore.')
I discovered that I was using message boards to socialize in general -- this one and two others right now -- but not actually meeting my social needs through them, when I am actually meeting my social needs in other places.
So it brought me to this idea that I could "let forums go completely."
And while I am "scared" i also feel "excited" and also "relieved."
Which means it's probably the right way to go.
So, I'll be asking the administration to delete me completely (and all of my posts including this one) -- and I certainly hope that they are willing. It would be a great relief to me.
Yes, it really feels like a relief.
So, I thought I'd share it as a sort of "parting declutter." Not that I think it's wrong/bad to use message boards -- it's awesome. Just that, well, I'm thinking that it's time for me to let it go. That it's ok to live without it.
I'm scared and excited by the prospect.
Thanks for everything guys, truly. Also, if anyone wants to connect via FB or something, do send me a PM and I'll use my discretion. (Probably, thus, will keep the account for a few days to allow for this. So likely by this weekend, I'll ahve this done.)