View Full Version : Do you describe yourself here in real or ideal terms?
I ask t his because once in a while I catch myself as I was in my best moments in relation to what I'm writing about, but not what is accurate right now. I wonder if others do this too.
My science background does not allow me to embellish! :) What I say, is what I am and what I do.
awakenedsoul
11-1-12, 10:14pm
I think real. I know when I was working as a writer, I would edit out the negatives. It kind of was an exercise for me to see the good in others. I've gotten good advice on this forum for dealing with a difficult neighbor situation, finances, etc...
I'm not comfortable with self-aggrandizement or breast beating. I'm generally straightforward, but not particularly forthcoming. So should I come down with butt boils, you won't be hearing about it.
I would say real.
But in thinking about it, I don't tend to visit message boards when I'm sad or in a bad mood. So you won't see that real side of me. So do I say "real-ish"?
Mighty Frugal
11-1-12, 10:25pm
Real! I would be embarrassed for myself if I embellished...nothing really to see here
I can't lie...sometimes I only want to show my good and "evolved" side.
Blackdog Lin
11-1-12, 10:44pm
Oh man, I struggled with a response to this one. Thank goodness I erased what I originally posted.
I aspire to some sort of ideal. The reality is somewhat different.
I'm with Float On and Jane. What I say is real, but it's not always the whole picture, mostly because I don't like complaining. 90% of the time complaining or focusing on the negative just makes it seem bigger and more irritating to me, so I tend to focus on the positive. Is that real? I think so.
As an example, I had car trouble today after my church women's group. I can look at that incident and complain that I had to sit in a van with 5 kids who were ready for lunch not entirely knowing how I was going to get home, or I can focus on the fact that a friend of mine and another lady I only know in passing stopped and loaded up my kids and me up in their vans and got us home. Both parts are true, but I, for one, would prefer to look at it as beautiful act of kindness rather than a burden I had to suffer. My perspective affects my reality.
Also, I would think people would be pretty bored by the kinds of negative stuff that happens to me. So I'm tired. Who gives a rip. Someone got overtired and had a tantrum. Yawn. It's nothing worth dwelling on or recounting.
rosarugosa
11-2-12, 5:57am
Real, but with some edits here & there.
I'm much more quirky in real life. :cool:
goldensmom
11-2-12, 7:49am
Real.
Real.
With that said, there are aspects of my life that I won't dive too deep into. And that is for PERSEC (personal security) reasons.
I'm also not a big complainer. However, if I'm having a rough day (health wise), I will not make it the elephant in the room. (That's how I approach it with the family, at the least).
What if real and ideal are the same thing? Not that I have that problem. I'm a much bigger pain in the ass in real life than I let on here.
shadowmoss
11-2-12, 10:32am
I'm much nicer online than I am in person. I can be a bit sarcastic and snippy in person. I'm also much more boring in person. I tend to write about the interesting parts of my life. One reason my blog is not a daily one.
iris lily
11-2-12, 10:40am
I exaggerate. So sue me.:D
I always make things out to be worse than they really are, which is why I rarely post any more. I would get frustrated about something that wasn't going right, and then I would vent here, and then I would think, "Really, it's not that bad", when the responses started coming in.
Real. IRL I probably do alot more interesting things then I talk about here but don't think anyone would be interested in hearing about them so don't bring them up. it For the most part my life is pretty low key and stress free (and probably boring and mundane to many people) so usually just focus on positive aspects of it because there aren't too many (any?) negatives other then my dog/travel issues - which I DO complain about here. Gosh darn Barkinator :-)!! Oh yes, and I DO make just as many bad jokes and poke fun at everyone I know IRL too!
Sorta real but somewhat slanted to what I am striving to be as well.
What if real and ideal are the same thing? Not that I have that problem. I'm a much bigger pain in the ass in real life than I let on here.
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Tussiemussies
11-4-12, 1:12am
Real but I don't talk about any thing that I am having an issue with in my life and I don't post anymore about doing energy work since some people seemed to have a problem with that. But otherwise I am real...:)
I think it's hard to be completely real in any group of people. Depending on the people I am interacting with, I will hold certain things back. I'm the most real to my husband. Everyone else gets a particular part of my realness. I'm certainly never fake - I'm known for honesty and sometimes abruptness, lack of tack etc.
Here I don't tend to complain as my complaints are so minor compared to what others are experiencing. I also don't think dwelling on them or putting them online for all eternity is necessarily a good thing. However at work I may complain as it's a bonding thing or a stress thing.
At work I don't talk much about early retirement or extreme simple living stuff.
Here I don't talk too about my work and finances because I've been very lucky in those areas, and don't want it to seem like bragging.
So, in summary, what I disclose to most people is real, but there is a lot of realness left nondisclosed.
Real terms. It is where I am now at this point in my life. I do talk of where I would like to be ideally, but I clearify that this is a goal and not an actual depiction of where I'm at.
Gardenarian
11-5-12, 3:45pm
I don't consciously change my image but I don't think my screen persona is much like my real self.
What I do project is real, but I don't disclose a ton about my personal life. I have had a surreal life change this year--one I would never have predicted. But, I don't talk about it here. I just keep it to the simple stuff.
ApatheticNoMore
11-5-12, 6:52pm
Real, but omit identifying details. Online is often a place to test personalities or ideas, and that makes it more real really. I sometimes complain, when I do (except if it's just about broad politics or something, but I mean when I do about my life) it's usually because I'm in pain. It's trivial emotional pain, like not thinking I can make it through another work day, stuff like that. It's times when life feels just an long rewardless joyless struggle.
What I do project is real, but I don't disclose a ton about my personal life. I have had a surreal life change this year--one I would never have predicted. But, I don't talk about it here. I just keep it to the simple stuff.
Oh I am soooo curious (or is that nosey :-)!) to hear about your surreal life change. Any chance you telling us? A little hint? My life is so predictable and pretty much unchanging that I like to hear about what other's unexpected - and expecially surreal! - change they went thru.
I dunno....don't want to be judged.
I dunno....don't want to be judged.
Well the wonderful thing about all of us here is that we aren't (too) judgemental! I have also found that the more we put ourselves out there, the less we fear, or care about, being judged in a negative way by others, and the more confident and comfortable we become with ourselves and the things that are important to us irregardless of what other's think. But I also understand that some things are very personal and if you aren't comfortable about sharing it with some of us nosey-Nellys (me!) then that's OK.
I think I am too real at times, but I love the advice and insights all of you have and are willing to share with me :)
I've never really described myself that I can recall, although I've had a few folks in the Public Policy forum take a stab at it. Those have been neither real or ideal. :doh:
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