the deeper truth is if you complain about having given up your life to kids you might just be looking for something to blame your life on (if it wasn't kids it would be that 'wretched spouse' you married - they ruined everything, or aging parents - admittedly at times a genuine burden, or etc..) But by no means do I think everyone needs to have kids. It works best when it's intended and wanted and thought out. I think some may have issues with the adult children living at home with this old woman and thus mooching off her, but they may be doing that to perform a "caretaking" role, as an elderly person may need a lot of caretaking. If you know not, judge not ..Here is the deal: If you choose to have kids and then you complain about it endlessly because you "gave up your life" for the kids. Then you ought not have ever been a parent. Boom! I said it.